The Rune Dad

I love game nights. We ask our kids which games they want to play, and they argue between them for a while, since one is usually better than another in a particular game. That’s part of the fun. There’s a compromise. If it still can’t be decided between them, then we typically have to take a vote (parents included) and soothe the ego of the one who lost.

Once in the game, I have to decide if I’m going to play easy, or take no prisoners. What’s the lesson I’m trying to teach? Regardless, my wife often wins. She could have wiped us out rounds ago but wanted to keep the fun and hope going.

For me, this is family. It’s creating safe spaces, having laughs, creating memories, and learning from your elders as much as from the young ones. As social animals, we’re programmed to create these bonds with our fellow humans. We deeply rely on one another, and as many of us found out through the year 2020, our emotional health is just as important as our physical health. Cherish those relationships.

I have, unfortunately, been missing many of these moments as I’m away from my wife and kids. But fortunate to gain more of these memories while visiting my parents. It has been both rewarding to reconnect and grueling to be away.

As I pulled Othila ᛟ again, I am reminded that we all need those feelings in our lives. A safe space where we feel cared for in all aspects. Maybe this is the signal to reach out to those who you haven’t spoken with in a while. Remember those in your lives who you love unconditionally and vice versa. Hold that feeling close when you’re apart and remind yourself of your support net.

In our modern age, the sense of family doesn’t always provoke the best feelings. And for those of you who have difficulties with your families, please substitute family for the feeling of belonging. Some of us have had to create our own families through friends and like-minded people who care and support. If family is a sore-spot, look for the bonds you make in your life and nurture those bonds. Friends are the family you choose.

Take a moment of gratitude towards those who make you feel like you belong. Give yourself some space to remind yourself that you’re not alone and there are people in this world who truly love you (blood or not).